The stress of the holiday season can be overwhelming for divorcing families. With the major transitions facing your family, the holiday season approaches which generally is about families getting together. How can you deal with this? Is it possible to have a “normal” holiday for the kids? How do we share the holidays, with the kids, future ex-spouses, and new and extended families?
Rather than going to the battlefield of the court room, divorce mediation strives to negotiate a peace treaty between the two parties in order to achieve a long-lasting and mutually beneficial plan without the hostility and stress of litigation. Essentially, by bypassing the court system that conventional divorce mandates, both individuals are able to amicably agree on terms that will behoove themselves and, more importantly, their families.
The separation of a divorcing couple is a draining experience for the entire family. The emotional toll of separation can have consequences that manifest themselves in children’s social and academic lives. The result of this severe stress can negatively impact a child’s grades, friends, state of mind, and even physical well-being. Fortunately, there are ways in which a couple can get separated while preserving the family atmosphere that is so vital to the healthy development of a child or young adult.
Finally Same Sex Marriage has come to New York: What we can Offer
Civil Union Couples can gain tremendous benefits from using divorce mediation to create divorce and parenting agreements, as well as prenuptial agreements.
Like divorce for other married couples, dissolving a Civil Union or same sex marriage can be costly if using the traditional divorce process. The process can drag out for months. There can be bitter fights over who gets the car, the couch, and how much time and when each party can spend with the child or children. Civil union partners or same sex marraige couples can sit together in a room privately to work out the details of their separation with an experienced mediator.
It finally happened, New York has finally enacted a version of “no-fault” divorce. Governor Patterson signed certain bills into law effecting our “divorce” laws in New York. Most important of all, the “no-fault” divorce allows couples who are in marriages that are just not working to end their marriages without the necessity of establishing fault. No longer will couples have to prove adultery, abandonment, cruel and inhuman treatment, or one year separation in order for a judge to consider a request for divorce.
Prior to 2008/09, separating or divorcing was always financially and emotionally difficult. We had lived beyond our means and dividing one household into two was difficult. Now with the economy the way it is, it feels nearly impossible to divide the household because supporting one household has gotten even tougher. Our investments have been shrinking and so has the equity in our homes. Emotions are flaring. Not to mention the huge cost of attorneys fees for separation and divorce.
What do you say when kids ask “Why are you getting a divorce?”
Is the whole truth always the best answer? Often we forget that children want and need to be protected from the private lives of the parents they love and look up to.
Because of hurt or anger, or in an effort to protect the relationship between a parent and the child or children, a parent may try to shift any blame away from them.