The late Maya Angelou once said, “Nothing will work unless you do”. These words hold true and should influence all facets of our lives. If there is some aspect of our lives that is potentially harmful or making us unhappy and apart from the way we want to live, it is up to us to do something about it. Wishing for and imagining a “better place” can only take us so far – without us actively participating in our lives, we will not see these improved circumstance or a “better place”.
Is there an area in your personal, business, or other aspect of your life that you think should or wish would be different? The time is now to do something about it. Unfortunately, it is the way of the world that we tend to live with things we want to change and not deal with it. We tend to be afraid of change and working hard at something especially when we are nervous about the change.
However, not only do these problems linger, but they worsen. Your problems will not rectify themselves – you have to confront and change them to better your own life. An irreparable marriage is one problem I find most often that people do not want to deal with and understandably so. Yet, it is amazing if it is addressed promptly, amicably, and mutually, two people can move forward to a “better place”.
On the other hand, if two people who do not belong together linger, the result can have emotional ramifications much greater on them and their loved ones. Separation is not an easy choice, but it may be a better choice than allowing a hostile marriage to tear apart a family and the individuals around. I never advocate for divorce but if there is an irreparable marriage which does more harm than good, divorce mediation is a healthy way to address the need for separation that may have been ignored for too long. Like any separation, divorce mediation is not an easy process, but neither is fixing any problem in your life. Mediation’s purpose is just as the title implies, to mediate two injured sides and alleviate the pressures between the two parties in order to separate them in a way that will result in that “better place”. We must actively take charge of our lives and turn our problems into situations that “work” for us.
R.I.P. Maya Angelou